What Kind of Mom Are You?

Perfectly ordinary day with my two God-given angels.

"Some are kissing mothers and some are scolding mothers, but it is love just the same; and most mothers kiss and scold together." ~ Pearl S. Buck

I always feel inadequate as a mother. I feel worst when the monster mom in me strikes like a lightning. I have this irrepressible depression once a month that makes me easily irritated (read: women's dilemma). There are times when I get angry so easily and scream at the top of my lungs. Yes, ain't no saint but I make it a point to apologize to my daughter whenever I turn into a monster mom. 

Like most mothers, I am both a kissing and scolding mother. I agree with Ms. Buck, it is love just the same. When I scold my daughter, I always do my best to explain to her that I LOVE her and I CARE about her that's why I have to scold her when she misbehaves. My usual line which Kyla must have memorized by now; "I am scolding you because I love you."

When I am a scolding mother, I always emphasize that it is the wrong thing she did that I hate, NOT her. My scolding sessions always end up with tight hugs and sweet kisses and the most touching part is when Kyla says sorry and declares how much she loves me and that she is thankful for having a sensible mother. On days that I am a kissing mother, my daughter claims I make the most delicious milk and I am the best mom in the world. 

During one of our girl's bedtime talk, Kyla thanked me for being her BFM (Best Friend Mom) and I thanked her for being my BFD (Best Friend Daughter). I could see the gleaming sparkle in her eyes when I hug and kiss her goodnight. I have to give credit to the hubby who plays a huge part in developing my parenting skills (read: I never thought of myself as a good mother). In fact, our girl's bedtime talk was his idea. He encourages Kyla to share her secrets to me and to treat me like her BFF (Best Friend Forever). 

Mothering/Parenting is a continuous learning process. I learn new things everyday and I have my wonderful kids to thank for it. I have never felt so blessed until I had Kyla and Gian in my life. I may not be a perfect mom, but Kyla thinks otherwise. FYI: Gian is slowly becoming a mama's boy too! :)

"While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about." ~ Angela Schwindt

Here's a salute to all mothers in the world! You may or may not have a child but you will always be a mother who loves and cares unconditionally. 

xoxo