10 Things I Want My 10 Year Old Daughter To Know (A Birthday Letter)

August 15, 2012

My precious not-so-baby girl,

How time flies... I have been keeping this to myself but I dread the days that you keep adding years to your very young life. Daddy loves to tease you, "where's my baby girlie?" and pretend to look for his teeny tiny baby girl. The last time he did you blurted out; "I am here, daddy! Your baby girlie have grown. Babies need to grow, you know?!" much to mommy's amusement and err... disappointment. Why do babies need to grow? I want to freeze the time, particularly this year (2012) so that you stop growing at 10 years old and your baby brother remains 1 year old forever . But since I can't stop the hands of biological clock from ticking, these are the things I want you to know amidst your fading childhood and ominous adolescence:

  •  You are God's beloved child. He loves you no matter what. Trust in Him and embrace His unconditional love. Put God first in everything you do and you will never go astray. 
  •  You will always be mommy's baby girl even if you are not-so-baby anymore. I still vividly remember that one stormy afternoon you were born. You are undoubtedly an angel who came down from heaven.
  •  Be yourself. Stay as bubbly and sweet as you are. You bring profound love and joy to our family. Life will never be the same without a loving and caring daughter and a big sister like you. 
  •  Never let go of the child in you. Never lost the joy in jumping and bouncing when you get really happy and excited even if one day you discover you are already a grown up. Anyone is never too old to be child-like.
  •  Admit when you are wrong. It is alright to make mistakes. Apologize for it, learn from it, forgive yourself and do your best not to repeat the same mistake twice.
  • Superficial beauty fades away. Strive to be beautiful inside. Be compassionate and respectful to other people and be an obedient child of God.
  • Daddy and mommy are striving to be a better parent to you and your baby brother. We raise our voice when we get impatient and we are sorry for that. Please know that we love you and baby Gian to bits more than anyone else in the entire universe. 
  • We don't always love your behavior BUT we love you ALL the time. There is no day we ever love you less because we can only love you more and more and more that we can't ever, ever measure how much we love you and cherish you in our hearts.
  • Continue your great love affair with books. We are very proud to have a reading machine like you. Read, read and read some more... You have my permission to get lost in a book full of words but remember to love numbers too.
  • You are a very fortunate child of God. Not all children have parents to care for them, roof under their heads, proper meal three times a day, and clothes to keep them warm. Be grateful. 

There are so much more I want to tell you my dearest child. On your 10th birthday, remember that the best things in life are free and life is too short to dwell on the temporary joy that material things bring. Treasure your family. Never be blinded by the sparkle of diamonds and flicker of gold. Instead, have a soul of diamonds and a heart of gold.  

May God grant all the desires of your heart and may all your dreams come true. Have a happy and magical 10th birthday! Daddy, mommy and baby Gian love you sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much!!!

With all the love I couldn't contain,


  1. Hi Mama thank you so much for posting this.You always make my day!!!:-)

  2. oh Che, what beautiful words of wisdom for your beautiful girl, I couldn't add more, these are really worth treasuring list. Happy 10th birthday, Kyla, you are indeed very fortunate child of God and so blessed baby girl of Che and Mond.

  3. God bless you, Kyla!! Welcome to the double digits, girl! You have taken a big step but you have an awesome family to help you through the many wonderful days ahead!!

  4. Nice illustration of maternal love...

  5. what a touching letter this is dear cher.
    the joys of being a parent is to see one's child grow up to be a God fearing and responsible kid.
    Happy, happy, happy birthday to dear Kyla!
    wish her all the giddy happiness in the world. ^0^
    always be a good girl to your mom and dad ha?!

  6. happy birthday Kyla dear! stay as sweet as you are..."with all the love I couldn't contain"...sigh, I feel your love for your daughter twinzy more than words can say....God bless your beautiful family always...

  7. Such a sweet letter for your beautiful daughter sistah. She is so lucky to have you as her Mom!

  8. Happy Birthday Kyla! Yeah, this is pure mom's love :)

  9. I love it esp #4 and #5. I'm sure she'll treasure this forever. <3

  10. Awww! This is really so sweet! I have been dreaming of writing my first letter to my daughter but I can't compose a great one like this. :) Love the closing tag. :D

  11. love your words of wisdom and love for Kyla Che, am sure she is appreciating those words more and more each day.

  12. Awww! such a sweet and loving letter to a Princess :-) They grow up too fast.don't they Sis :-) My son who was born preemie now is 11 years old and almost as tall as me :-( We have to cherish evry moment with them before we know it, they have their own separate life :-(

  13. Very sweet so touching , mothers love is a unconditional love.

  14. awwww...what a sweet letter from a mother! I'm sure she'll appreciate this letter someday. Belated happy birthday to your little lady.

  15. Inspiring words of wisdom shared by a truly loving mother. Admitting one's wrong is one thing my late dad always reminded to live by.

  16. very sweet, and i am pretty sure that your daughter would appreciate your letter for her. thanks for sharing this to us.