5 Reasons Why You Should Date Yourself

I know a few people who are not comfortable of going out and eating out alone. I am a total opposite. I actually enjoy going out alone and eating alone. I savour every minute I spend all by my lonesome self. I call it dating myself to get my much-needed alone time to just be me, pamper and love myself more, and reflect without distractions. My idea of dating oneself was sparked by an inspiring lifestyle blogger who is very good at balancing her time for her family, career, friends and last but not the least, for herself.

Here are 5 reasons why you should date yourself once in a while. The chachaclub.com listed 9 benefits of dating oneself but I downsized it into 5 based on my personal account.

1. It feels good when you do nice things to yourself. 
Go ahead and pamper yourself once in a while. My way of pampering varies from going for a spa/massage, facial treatment, hair treatment, gastronomic indulgence and buying gifts/rewards for myself (read: shopping). You don't have to wait for someone to do nice things to you, because you can do it yourself.

2. Time alone clears your head.
This is actually one of the top reasons why I love dating myself. When I am alone, I tend to assess things in life in a broader and clearer perspective. I take my own precious time to reflect about the ups and downs of my life and end up feeling very blessed. The stress accumulated brought about by mundane things from everyday life tend to disappear as I clear my mind.

3. You become more comfortable in your own skin.
Very simple. The more you spend time with yourself, the more you will become comfortable in your own skin. If you are the type of person who finds it so hard to blend with other people because of your insecurities, you should date yourself more. Being comfortable with your own skin means accepting who and what you are wholeheartedly.

4. You learn and experience new things.
There are endless ideas on where and how to go on a date all by your lonesome self. It will actually lead you to experience things you've never experienced before. You have to remember that experience is and will always be the best teacher in life.

5. You can make new friends.
Dating oneself is advisable not only for busy moms who tend to forget about self-love because they are so busy loving and spending time with their spouses and children. If you are single, you can benefit from dating yourself by meeting new friends and possibly new love interest. Who knows, your love story will start from; "Care if I share the table with you?"

When you date yourself, it doesn't necessarily mean you are a loner. For me, it's a learning avenue to love myself more. It is human nature to depend our happiness on other people, but we have to learn that we actually have to rely on ourselves for our own happiness. Let me leave you to ponder with this quote:
"Be the person you are happy to live with for the duration of your life. Don't rely on your significant other, or anyone else, for your happiness and self-worth. Know that our first and last love is always self-love, and that if you can't love and respect yourself, no one else will be able to either." ~ Anonymous


  1. I love love love this post! I guess I should start dating myself more often! I gotta learn how to drive soon if that's the case ahahahaha :) too lazy to commute sometimes :) there are so many places I would love to explore here! :) happy dating! yabyew! :)

    PS. typo on #2 first sentence yabyew

  2. You know what, this sounds really good! Haven't done this for a long time, and I badly need one. Thanks☺ - Joy of GastronomybyJoy.com