5 Ways To Survive a Long Distance Relationship (LDR)

Do you think I am done with my love related posts just because Valentine's Day is over? Oh well, I am sorry to disappoint you but the love month isn't over yet so I shall continue with one or two more articles. Please bear with me, will you?

Hubby and I survived a long distance relationship (as friends and subsequently lovers) before we finally get to meet and stay in the same country together. We started as pen friends, then phone pals and finally settled as text mates (because phone cards are too expensive).

He was in a far flung "isolated" mountain of Saudi Arabia then while I was in one "provincial area" of Taiwan. How did we keep the love alive despite the distance? Let me count the ways...

1. Write to each other letter once to thrice a week.
I know you won't believe me when I say I often received 3 letters in a day (once a week) but I really did! The former diligent suitor (now my husband) was very good in keeping the communication line open by writing his thoughts about our relationship in the form of a lengthy letter, post cards and short love notes. I reciprocated his gesture and we lasted!

2. Dial his/her number 3 times when you wake up, before you go to bed or anytime you remember.
I really looked forward to the hubby's 3 missed calls any time of the day. I know it was just a missed call but it meant a lot to me. It meant I was remembered and I am loved. Needless to say, return the missed calls with missed calls too to acknowledge the message of love and thoughtfulness. Too corny but it worked and it saved us a lot of money from buying international phone cards.

3. Call each other at least thrice a week or every other day.
A very short call to simply say I love you and/or I miss you is enough. Save the long call for once a week or once a month, depending on the comfort of your pocket. :D

4. Send him/her an sms once or twice a day.
If you can afford to, send an sms to express that you miss him/her and that the distance between you makes your heart grow fonder. You can type any sweet nothing you wish, just make sure the recipient will feel loved and cared for.

5. Send each other a gift once in a while with or without an occasion.
I once sent a talking blue bear to the husband. The bear was holding a heart and when you press it, it says I Love You. I know it's too corny but it made him feel so loved. You can send anything you fancy, it's really the thought that counts.

There are so many ways to keep the love alive in a long distance relationship especially nowadays that we have easy access to Skype, Facebook chat, emails among many other ways to communicate. All you need is to be creative, mushy and corny. Goodluck!


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